In this article we are going to be talking about Forgiveness. Is there something in your life that you just can’t seem to let go of? Has someone in your life really bothered you? You know you should forgive them but you just can’t forget or let go of what happened.
This happens to a lot of people – they know that forgiveness is something they should strive for but can’t quite get there which makes them feel even more guilty.
It’s no wonder, as the way in which we are taught to forgive makes it difficult. I think we are taught to forgive in a way that is all wrong; we are told we should forgive and forget and it feels that we are letting that person off the hook.
This also makes us feel that anybody can do anything to us and we will say it is OK. This can make us feel vulnerable to being attacked again in the same way by that person and that we will just let them off the hook.
It is healthy for us to have boundaries and personal integrity so the usual advice on forgiveness can cause conflict within us. So how can we get peace from the memory of the situation without feeling like we are allowing someone to get away with it?
First – you don’t need to forgive the person or be open to them do it again. What they did was not OK by you, you don’t want that to happen again.
If you change your perspective and realise that it is not the person that you need to let off the hook, but to understand the situation, then you can move towards healing within yourself. You need to understand and process why the situation has come into your life. Once you get that ‘aha’ moment then the inner shift can occur so that you can move on from the emotions.
In Simply Divine we discuss how the Black Hole Principle implies that we have aspects of our consciousness out of space and time beyond the speed of light. This is what is traditionally called the Higher Self.
This is the aspect of us that chooses our lives and everything that happens in it. The key to our healing is to move towards an understanding of why our Higher Self has introduced a particular incident and the healing journey that this has engendered.
What has been this gift in this?
Just asking the question ‘what has been this gift in this?’ can shift the entire feelings about a situation. Sometimes this type of work is so effective that the situation will not affect us anymore and we will feel much more free.
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Entering the Flipside of Spirit
I have seen it many times, someone undergoes a spiritual awakening and the world becomes all sunshine and rainbows. They just can’t believe their luck and the new world that has opened up to them. They meet people who are psychic and who want a world filled with possibilities and beauty.
They explore community living, chakras, crystals, tarot. They pinch themselves that just a few months ago they were wondering if there was more to life and now here they are in New Age play land.
Making these new connections it suddenly seems possible that a new Earth could arrive very soon – a beautiful utopian land based on love and peace.
And them boom – life hits them in the face and they are pushed to the point of near disillusionment. They experience events which makes them question everything they have just learnt.
This can take the shape of three phases
Usually what happens first is that the oh-so-lovely spiritual people that our new age newbie has just encountered show themselves as they really are – people so keen to escape their issues that they have wandered into the fluffiness of the New Age.
But their emotional traumas remain and show up just as before. This is even more confusing for the newbie as people seemingly so full of love and light up front turn around and act in a vicious manner.
This feels to the newbie as even worse then the ‘normal’ world they thought they had left as at least people there were more upfront about being ruthless. This is a pretty common occurrence for some stepping on the spiritual path.
2. Life events blow up
Another very common occurrence is that shortly after waking up spiritually, life events occur in the person’s life that can bring them to their knees: divorce, job loss and more. This blow up can cause most people to turn their back on spiritual awaking yet it is often not possible. Once out of the box, it cannot be put back in.
Often people lose out on the financial income that they enjoyed before. Many people have immense spiritual skills but they can’t find a way for these skills to lead to financial support.
It seems that the worlds of the spiritual and that of the material are very far apart. They start to lose faith in their own spiritual journey and become disillusioned with it all as ‘airy fairy’ nonsense that is not practical. They don’t see how to keep their integrity and make money.
3. The Road to Integration
This is the Flipside of spirituality and it can be painful. But this doesn’t have to be the point when someone jacks in their journeying and exploration (not that it is possible anyway). Andrew Harvey speaks of undergoing the initiation of the light and then the initiation of the dark.
The truth is we need both to become fully integrated on the journey. We need the dark and the light, the conscious and the subconsciousness, the spiritual and the practical, the immaterial and the material, the matter and the antimatter. If you follow my work you will know what I mean by that last example.
If you can ride the storm through this initiation of the dark and understand it for what it is you will be able to become a more integrated and clearer person. You can exist in the realms of the dimensions as well as have a job if this is what you want.
You will be able to see a lot of the New Age types for who they often are – people escaping from childhood emotional traumas. This means you will have a more balanced view of people and of the world that will put you in better positions than the initial floaty escapism that characterises spiritual newbies.
I am not judging this phase either – I have totally been there myself – we all have. It just becomes very confusing and I hope this article helps people to realise they are not alone in having similar issues blow up in their face. They don’t have to completely reject their spirituality when this happens but can move forward in a more integrated way.
In truth it is your own subconscious emotions and shadow self that are exploding and this is what is reflecting in the world ‘out there’. This insight will help you to navigate some of the most difficult storms.
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I have a problem with the Dalai Lama’s response to the Paris attacks in 2016. However, by examining his response we can actually learn a few spiritual principles so l am going to do that in this article.
A puzzling quote
In early 2016, after a violent incident in Paris that shook the world, the Dalai Lama was asked to give his opinion on how we should react in an interview with Murali Krishnan.
A lot of the interview covers the spiritual leader’s philosophies on peace, but on the incident in Paris he said,
“We cannot solve this problem only through praying. I am a Buddhist and I believe in praying. Humans have created this problem, and now we are asking God to resolve it. It is illogical. God would say, solve it yourself because you created it in the first place”.
I was quite amazed by this quote, but it is not the first time I have suspected something surprising: the Dalai Lama may not be as spiritually connected as many people think.
Let’s examine this point by point:-
The Power of Prayer
At the beginning of this quote he says we cannot solve the problem by praying even though he is a Buddhist and believes in praying.
In this quote he seems to reveal a lack of understanding prayer and its power. Prayer is simply the focus on intention and consciousness. It is about harnessing universal forces.
In the situation in Paris, this was exactly the point where good intentions and shifts in consciousness were vital. Ancient Eastern religions have long taught that consciousness is fundamental to reality and as someone steeped in such religions the Dalai Lama should have known that it is only by a shift in consciousness that the 3-D level can follow suit.
He also reveals in this quote that he believes that when we pray it is to something external: a ‘God’ outside ourselves. Buddhism and many other spiritual philosophies emphasise the God within ourselves and our connection to that unity. Yet this Paris quote is very indicative of a belief in an anthropomorphic God who can reach in and solve our issues.
Facing the Shadow
Nowhere in this quote does he discuss that these incidents reflect the reflection our own collective emotional shadow. But of course if we are all linked, then the universe simply reflects the interior of our consciousness.
Now that this concept has entered mainstream culture through books like, ‘The Secret’, it is even more amazing that one of the world’s foremost spiritual leaders does not explain this principle especially in a moment when the world needs to hear this so badly.
Understanding the emotional reflection of the shadow is the basis for personal and collective evolution of consciousness. This was a massive opportunity with the world looking at him to discuss how we are projecting our shadow and that we are all connected and have God within us.
But instead he perpetuated the rather puzzling view that we are separate from God which I would have thought was the opposite of Buddhism.
To me these are not the words of a someone who feels connected to the God within as true force in the universe. We do not pray to something outside ourselves, we are all one and connected; we are all God.
Ultimately we create these events from a Higher level and as a projection of our emotional shadow. So why would we create suffering and death? In reality nothing and nobody ever truly dies (although the pain in the 3-D realm is not to be disrespected or ignored).
A more empowering teaching is that every soul that incarnates has already made a decision as to their exact mode and time of death and this is unfolding in a perfect way. There are higher dimensional reasons for everything that occurs in 3-D but these are sometimes difficult to understand from the 3-D perspective as we go through pain, horror and grief.
Focusing on a polarity such as peace, will just maintain polarity as peace is the opposite of conflict. It is only through the integration of the shadow that we can see the polarity clearly enough to enter into a centred state. A true master does not focus on polarity and opposite – war vs peace etc, but on clearing the emotional shadow on a personal level as this will also clear the collective consciousness.
Another questionable quote
I also question the following quote from the Tibetan leader.
‘Don’t let the behaviour of others destroy your inner peace.’
This quote from the Dalai Lama is actually the opposite of good spiritual practice. I am not saying that people need to be knocked about by others, but true spirituality is increased by the knowledge that we are all one and therefore seemingly annoying behaviour in others is simply a mirror being held up to our own selves.
The annoying behaviour of others is a message that we, in our own higher wisdom, have created for a reason and our job is not to ignore it and hope it will go away (it will actually come back in a stronger form), but to understand the lessons and the reflections and to integrate them and move forward into deeper wisdom.
Peace is not created from ignoring the call of your soul but by understanding that the entire universe is connected and that the events that happen in your life are created in your own higher wisdom to bring the perfect loving lessons for your own soul growth.
It may not bring short term comfort but in the long run this is the true road to peace.
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In my first book, Punk Science I described how areas of the universe are made up of matter which we are familiar but also the universe is made up of antimatter.
The process of these coming together to make light in the form of gamma-rays is a process that occurs in black holes which I have described before, but did you know it may be key in your own life?
Building on the work of Dr John Demartini, author of The Breakthrough Experience, I also realised that the antimatter region of your own self may represent your shadow emotions – those aspects of you that you do not want to face.
Dr John Demartini author of the Breakthrough Experience. Credit Dr Manjir Samanta-Laughton
Life, however will provide you with opportunities with which to face your shadow self – this is what we call the journey of life. It is how we handle these events that determines the level of transformation that they give us.
I hear a lot of spiritual teachers, some of them very famous, who tell you to ignore your emotions and people who may bother you in life. I teach the exact opposite; it is in the difficult events and people where the real treasure lies.
These events hold the clues to your own shadow self and emotions and it is by integrating your matter and antimatter in your own consciousness that you can increase the light in your being – just like in a galactic black hole!
This quick exercise can help you to integrate your shadow self and emotions.
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